Helda

Helda, 29, full time student at Rutgers University majoring in Public Health and works full time as a Healthcare coordinator: “So you have Muslim religion and Muslim culture. The thing with our religion and culture is that they are so intertwined. People mistake a lot of culture things to be religious and they’re not. There’s a stigma attached to our culture when it comes to marriage. You can’t date. I have 5 sisters and all my sisters were married with one child by the time they were 21. I’m going to be 30 this month. So, I’m the only one that has branched out of that and not followed that tradition. I’ve dated someone for a long time, that in the beginning was secret, but then when it got serious, when it came time to get married it was a big problem... it’s complicated!”